So last night I'm having a text conversation with a friend of mine. I really don't understand why people can't just pick up the phone and talk to one another anymore but that's besides the point. I sometimes tend to go off on tangents, please bear with me I always get back on track. So during this conversation with said friend I mention I have to go to bed early because it's gym day tomorrow (today) to which he proceeds to tell me that I should be going to the gym 7 days a week twice a day in order to be considered "hardcore". I don't want to be hardcore, I mean I want to have a less soft core but I certainly don't want to be hardcore. Anyways, I digress. He continues to tell me that while the normal person should work out 30 minutes a day 7 days a week I should work out like the people on "The Biggest Loser". I have a problem with that and the show. I mean I'm all "yay for inspiring Americans to not be fat asses" but "boo for convincing people that it's not going to take work". I proceed to tell this person that I don't have the 10+ hours a day to work out which is the downfall (sadly) of most of the contestants when they get home because life gets in the way. However, this does not deter him and he responds that I don't have a family and only work 8 hours a day so I should have no excuse. Excuse? Really? I was livid. This however has not been the first time a guy has felt the need to "nudge" me. He tells me I should work out before and after work. That should do the trick. Suuuure it will.
I'm going to rewind a minute here....
About five years a go the boy I liked and sometimes well, boinked, invited me on a bike ride. I'm a fat girl. I can run I can not ride but this didn't stop him from wanting to go on one with me. (I must tell you he's an avid, and I mean AVID cyclist.) So I go. I go in the middle of a hot July morning on a 15 mile bike ride. Sweating, huffing, and just generally being miserable all day. I do this because I thought this would get the boy to like me more. "See I'm doing something you like, this makes you like me more. Right?" Wrong. After not speaking to me for two days I finally get a hold of him on the phone. I lie and tell him I had fun to which he says, point blank and I can only imagine expressionless, "I didn't realize how out of shape you were." I was dumbfounded. I mean literally and completely dumbfounded. This man dated me for 6 years, he saw me naked more times than I can count, he knows every ounce of flub, chub, and jiggle in my butt and he tells me I'm "out of shape". My cheeks got hot, I was slightly more than embarrassed and he follows it up with "I guess you need to work harder if we're going to do that again". We never did that again. Subsequently it was a long time before we did anything together again.
So yes, I had a point in there somewhere.....
Oh my point. I was so afraid this new friend was going down that path. I'm hoping through the text waves he sensed me tensing up and ended the conversation by saying he too was heading to bed which I am thankful for. I'd like to know what makes in shape people think that fat girls (and boys) need them to tell us how to work out. It's not rocket science...calories in vs calories out. Cut your calories and you cut your flub.
I did go to the gym today. It wasn't very long (just shy of twenty minutes) but I did go. I do have my gym clothes in the car to change into after work and get the rest of my workout in (40 minutes thank you very much) but it's not because the skinny boy told me to. It's because I told me to. It's because it's my journey not his or anyone else's. You don't have to like it, heck you don't have to read this. I'm not twisting your arm.
Just know that if you are a non-fat person and you see a fat person don't think we want to hear all about how to get into shape. Truth is, it probably just makes us want to punch you in the nose as you eat your cheeseburger.
xoxo Me
That boy is an idiot and not a very good friend.
ReplyDeleteIf you go all "hardcore" you are going to have to keep up with that forever in order to maintain it. And if you aren't trying out for a bodybuilding competition, then there is no reason to. You need to do a workout that challenges you, but his double workout 7 days a week is not a lifestyle that normal people can or want to maintain. It is a set up for failure and completely unnecessary. Biggest Loser contestants aren't realistic. And losing it superfast like that is not good for you. Stepping off the soapbox now, you are doing the right thing :)
Yes my soap box friend you are right :) On all counts.
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